Additionally, you might wish to explore another difference: there exists a militancy in the secular world that does not in the Yeshiva Frum world. (I speak not of practicing ultra-orthodox vs non-practicing, but of the world view and perspective of those having grown up in a completely shielded, purely religious environment vs those having grown up with outside influences.)

Simply put, the FFB’s of whom I speak declined to engage with the issue becaise they don’t engage with many issues at all, believing anyways that the vast majority of the world is so very different from them that not merely having given up on the prospect of changing what is “wrong with the world” or someone else’s belief, further, never contemplated attempting to change it. It’s completely natural and expected for Yeshiva’s to be bashed and critiqued, rightly or wrongly, and as a FFB, I wouldn’t lift a finger to counter it. It’s OK. I’m bemused and mildly frustrated or worried by your views expressed, but that’s totally, perfectly normal.

I find a very different reaction with my not-too-into-Yeshiva friends and non-FFB friends…. They really are ticked off, some even outraged, by criticism of their prized hobbies, obsessions, or opinion on what light to be…. and they shure will right that wrong!

So militant, so aggressive. And then we are the closed-minded…

Lest anyone counter with: “You are writing now… so that can’t be it!” You’re right, bit when I read the Hevria article I didn’t respond at all – not a comment, despite having practically written a point by point rebuttel in prosaic prose continuing with a full throated defense of Yeshiva and utter condemnation for college on different grounds. (without having attended it, the horror!)
And yet, me, and I suspect many others with a similar background and upringing, wouldn’t comment.

It’s more than cultural or sociological – there are philosophical underpinnings, even religious ones, that have molded an outlook that subconsciously discourages it.